I’m living proof

Guest post by Wesley Evans    

Wesley Evans PhotoI was once paralyzed with fear and hopelessness. It is common for those living with mental illness to live a life without hope. I spent years trying new medications, along with a string of doctors, fading in and out of various programs, never engaged or inspired. Not being able to hold down a job, I was eventually told to apply for Social Security Disability because it was likely that I would not be able to work again. By this time I had resigned myself to the thought and belief that this was how my entire life was going to be. I had given up the shred of hope that existed in my youth.

After years on Social Security and an unstable life, I found a community support group for people like myself, living with a mental illness. I suddenly found myself surrounded by my peers. I was surrounded by people who wanted to be well and move forward in their lives. After finding and attending the support group weekly, along with the right medications, I began to make progress. I found that along with them I began to improve. I began to see hope after years of hopelessness. Little did I know I was laying the foundations of a solid support system.

In this network of my peers, I found an opportunity to help others who were living the life I had lived. In 2006 I was among the first Certified Recovery Peer Specialists in the State of Florida.  For nearly 10 years I have been working in a field that I love, assisting others who were trapped and struggling to navigate the mental health system, like myself. I have found a passion, a purpose, to help others who live with mental illness and to be a voice for the voiceless. I have built a great life for myself, one that I am proud of.

Recovery from mental illness is possible. I’m living proof!

 

Only now do I understand

Guest post by Mary Bowers. Ms. Bowers is a volunteer for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), Tallahassee Affiliate.
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My daughter Brook ended her life at the age of 31, just days before the 15th anniversary of her high school boyfriend’s death by suicide.

At the time, 16-year-old Brook had insisted no one understood what she was going through — the grief, the guilt, and the shame. Only now do I understand.

Two weeks after Brook’s funeral, I went back to work. When the longing to see her just one more time was more than I could bear, I took a sick day or two. There was a void that filled my heart and many unanswered questions consumed me.

After a few months had passed, I began attending grief support groups and I continue to do so today. Participating in those support groups with other survivors of suicide loss — the fostering of trust and understanding — made the difference. They knew what I needed when they gave me a sense of hope and helped me preserve my dignity.

Only one in four survivors seek help after the suicide of a loved one, and when they do, often times many months or years have passed. Forty-nine percent of survivors of suicide loss consider killing themselves. But healed survivors can find meaning in their lives by contributing to the community by helping others, especially those who have confronted similar losses.

This lesson is very important and together we can spark a meaningful change focused on suicide postvention.

With the Inaugural Bluebird Run and Walk for Brookie B, we hope to ignite a coordinated postvention program to support the bereaved and prevent further suicides. NAMI-Tallahassee has started the conversation. We offer you the opportunity to join us in our compassionate journey. For Bluebird Run and Walk for Brookie B information see www.BluebirdRun.com.

To get involved in NAMI-Tallahassee’s suicide prevention efforts, contact her at bowersb@centurylink.net. If you are in crisis or know someone who is, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), 24/7.

DCF Renews Commitment to Serving Florida’s Vulnerable

“The work of our department is challenging. We are the safety net for Florida’s most vulnerable children and families. But with the challenges of our work come great rewards. Our vision is this – to deliver world-class and continuously improving service at the level and quality that we would demand and expect for our own families.” — Secretary Mike Carroll

Great news – Florida Sees Increase in Foster Care Homes Over Past Fiscal Year!

Photo courtesy of Devereux Community Based Care. This CBC's efforts led to a 45 percent increase in the number of homes licensed during the past year through their “25 by 25” campaign.

Photo courtesy of Devereux Community Based Care. This CBC’s efforts led to a 45 percent increase in the number of homes licensed during the past year through their “25 by 25” campaign.

GREAT NEWS! We’ve seen an increase in foster homes available. DCF and community partners have recruited more than 1,380 new foster families this fiscal year!

Approximately 10,000 children are in foster placements throughout Florida. Foster parents change lives and offer hope to children who have been removed from their homes by no fault of their own, because they have experienced abuse or neglect and cannot safely remain with their parents. They play a significant role in helping families heal and reunite. When reunification is not possible they help children transition to a new home and a new family.

Interested in fostering? Visit www.MyFLFamilies.com/FosteringSuccess.

 

It takes a lot of heart

Last month, two DCF child protective investigators initiated an investigation at a home where a 4-year-old was allegedly living in unhealthy conditions. The father answered the door and initially would not allow them into the home, but with persistent encouragement he relented and let them in. The home was filthy, with human waste and trash strewn around the home. The father appeared to be going through severe withdrawals, and the mother was lying on the couch completely covered under a blanket. The mother was incoherent and visibly unwell, with severe bruising on her face, arms and legs.

The CPIs called 911 and at the hospital the mother was diagnosed as suffering from seizures. Doctors said her health was so poor that without intervention she faced death.

The child was placed with her grandmother, and a couple of days later, the child asked one of the CPIs to attend her 5th birthday party. The CPI attended the party and then accompanied the child and her grandmother to visit the mother in the hospital. The mother has since been discharged from the hospital. The grandmother cleaned the house, and a relative is staying with the parents in the home to provide support and assistance. The child is thriving in her grandmother’s care.

It takes a lot of heart to do this job well.